Day 10- Here's to the people who you want to keep...

Sometimes things happen that we don't expect. As a matter of fact, every day things happen that we don't expect. I mean, I know personally, I try to prepare for just about everything, even the stuff that I might not know is coming, but inevitably, life will bring you things that you are not prepared for, that you need to adjust for, and that you need to deal with. When those moments come, who you can really count on, and who you really trust, really comes to the forefront of your reality. Who are the people who you really want to talk to in moments like that? Who do you really believe is a person of substance in your life?

Most people, or I should say most relationships, are disposable. People are never disposable, but relationships certainly can be disposable. I know for me, I hate fragile relationships, but they are the norm, as opposed to being unusual. People's egos are huge. People are insecure, and I think that a lot of this has to do with the advent of social media, but I'm not really an expert on such things, that's just my opinion, but I just think that people are so concerned with what other people think of them, what their profile looks like, they control everything with regards to how they are put out there and presented to the rest of the world, I just think that social media has made people really weak. People rarely think for themselves in this current environment. I think people have lost their foundation, have lost a lot of their strength. They think they're resilient, but they're not. They're just plain fragile. Easily broken. Easily disappointed, easily angered, they're just not solid.

This is something that makes me sad, that I'm so disappointed in, way too often. Sometimes it really surprises me, but more often than not, I'm not surprised at all. In any case, here's to the solid relationships in your life, the people who can take difficult moments and get through them without making them a big deal. Without making them deal breakers. Here's to the people who are here today and here tomorrow and here for the foreseeable future. The people who you trust. The people who you believe when they speak. The people who are a certain person on Tuesday, and then they're the exact same person on Wednesday, and Thursday, and next Friday, and here's to allowing them to be human. Here's to allowing people to be assholes from time to time, to understand that people are going through a lot of things in their lives, here’s to understanding that that's the case for everybody. Everybody has a hard day from time to time, everybody has a hard month, most people will experience a difficult decade, here's to those of us who allow for this in people, and here's to being strong enough to release those who are fragile, because to me, that's one of the only things in life that is not worth fighting for. It's just not worth fighting for someone who is not who they appear to be. I can deal with a person with a plethora of issues, as long as they are solidly “them”. Honestly who they are. Open. Willing to be vulnerable. I don't know if that makes any sense to you reading this, but if you are a person who understands the human condition, I think you understand what I'm saying. I'm not saying put up with toxic people, I'm not saying put up with a manipulator or a narcissist, I am saying allow for a person to be human, and I'm saying be human yourself.

Did I mention I hate people who “ghost”? Yeah, that, too… Who are so fucking mysterious? That shit is boring. Annoying…. Walking on eggshells is not any way to exist. When you are doing that, meaning creating that kind of scenario, or whether someone is putting you in that kind of situation, when you feel like you’re walking on eggshells, I would say crush them, turn around, and run the other way. What I’m trying to say is, here’s to humanity, here’s to real people, and here's to love, because love is about acceptance, but love is also about not being so fucking broken, taking responsibility for your own psychological well-being, and not putting that on other people. Love is about doing the work so that you are not unfair to other people in your relationships. Love is being responsible. Love is empathy. Love is giving. Love is being willing to take. But only when you know what’s being offered to you is sincere.

Anyway… the end of this particular thought, on this particular day, and thanks for reading all of this, if you are still here, and as I always say, here's to a better world, for all of us.



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